I find it important to prioritize time away from your child and spend it with your spouse. It is crucial to strengthen the bond between you and your husband, and understand that both of you make up this really cool, two man parenting team. Before this trip, I had so many feelings of anxiety and guilt to leave Jacob. I'm sure all mothers would feel something similar. I knew that a vacation is something that would be good for us, but it didn't make it easier dealing with the associated feelings of anxiousness. Before this vacation, I had just weened Jacob off of breastfeeding (10 1/2 months postpartum) and was already hormonal and emotional. But once we were on the vacation, I got to focus on my husband and truly enjoy him and his company with no interruptions. Literally falling in love with him all over again. Not only falling in love with my husband, but falling in love with the father of my child, that helps me day in and day out, and works relentlessly for his family. I look at him in a different light, and as a killer partner as a new parent adding to his many characteristics about him that I love.
As parents, one of the many responsibilities we hold, is to be the model relationship that our child is exposed to and hope to emulate one day. To me, this is one of the most important roles I have in my life. Our goal is to create a loving household with healthy boundaries and expectations of one another so that we can raise a child that will, in return, be a positive contribution into a society that, sorry to say, has a lot of negative influences. For now, I feel like we're on the right path.